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valeria
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Oh and the other thing.... RESPECT. If you don't support each other and don't respect each other in your dealings with each other and especially around others it will cause a rift in the relationship.
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ALW01
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Valeria,I take reassurance from your words.
All I can do is take whatever she throws at me.
I cant throw anything back at her because I still love her, and I don't wanna hurt her.
Before I left, I asked her to say something nice about me.
She genuinely struggled to answer my request before finally saying, "You're good at your job."
LMAO, it wasn't the answer I was looking for.
I've really struggled with the housekeeping side of being on my own.
I never knew there were so many different things to pay, I reaally begrudge it, and an sometimes convinced that I'm being connmed from all angles.
I never knew you had to pay for water. I thought it was free bacause it was tasteless, and it was water.
Anyway, on a brighter note, I did a weeks work for a shopfitting company a month ago.
This morning I received an offer of a contract for their next, and mch bigger contract in London. It's very long hours 7 days a week.
So I have a positive to build upon.
Thanks for the reassurace and for sparing the time to reply.
I really appreciate it
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ALW01
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19.06.2007, 09:56 |
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Thank You Dr Val. shdd,poi,gtr,lmao,lol,phd,lldecvfr. |
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ALW01
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Thank You Dr Val. shdd,poi,gtr,lmao,lol,phd,lldecvfr. |
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Poppy
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I was reading ALW's message and have to reply ...
You know what - you're not alone - not by a long shot ...
Something a bit similar has happened to me, twice.
Valeria is right - key to good relationship is communication and respect.
The thing though now-a-days seem to be ... relationships, marriges are taken quite "lightly". As soon as "honeymoon" is gone or spark is lost - out you go and bye ...
Girlfriends, boyfriends, wives or husbands to some are like furnitures almost ... "Nawww - I don't like that one anymore - need new, better, much cooler looking, the latest "fashion" show piece ...".
That's very immature behaviour, because the ones who throw their relationship/marrige out of the window just like that in most cases doesn't understand that every day routine will come into the new relationship too and then what? The circle is ready - new one will come in the picture sooner or later ... again, again AND again ...
Someone said once ... in our time we are used to get everything asap ... Fast food, fast service in shops, cafes etc and fast relationships too ...
It doesn't matter where you live in the Western world, but in these greedy and selfish times it's all about me, me and MORE ME ...
The hell with others as long as everything is GREAT FOR ME!
I've been single for a while now and done my fair share of pubbing and clubbing and it really makes me sick at times when talking to a guy ... and he says "Yeah, I really like you, you are so cool and I'd like to take you home ... Ummm, but ... I am married (or in relationship) btw, but it's going all wrong, REAL BAD, so I don't feel quilty being here or talking to you like this ... or going even further ... "
This is so typical ... and every time when I hear the same s**t I just walk away with "byeeeeeee".
I have absolutely no respect for people who cheat.
They are cowards (sp?) who don't have the guts to face their significant others and TALK /TELL them sorry, but this isn't working for me.
Instead they run around, find someone else and then think they are in 7th heaven. Yeah ... maybe a month or 2 or even 3, but they just don't get the fact that the "bliss" will fade away eventually, ALWAYS.
ALW ... just move on - she doesn't deserve you.
I understand you might still love her, but to be brutally honest - it's a waste of your time.
People who are capable of doing what she did loves only one person - themselves.
They are so stupid that they don't understand sooner or later the new relationship will become "old one" and then what ... ??? "On the road again" ... where the grass is greener ...
NEWS FLASH - it never is greener, but they just don't get it.
They will never be TRULY HAPPY, because they don't know what it takes to LOVE, RESPECT and CHERISH ANOTHER HUMAN BEING ...
Oh - and every time you feel sad or low ... THINK about your ex and something like -->
OR ...
OK ... maybe a bit extream, but it has worked for me LOL
Good luck ALW ... I hope you get to see your son soon
In time everything will be ok . Believe me, I know so ...
Good things happen to GOOD people ... it's called KARMA ...
"What comes around goes around" ... and that's a FACT!
(((HUGS)))
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mojojds
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Okay gonna try and make this simple lol
Im 37 yrs old
Bartender (14yrs)
Im a Mother of 3 - 21 yr old son , 19yr old daughter ,and 11 yr old son Grandma of 4 - 3yr gr-son , 2yr gr-dghtr, 8mth gr-dghtr, 7mth gr-son
8month gr-dghtr from my 19yr old daughter .. the other 3 grandkids are from my 21 yr old son ( horny S.O.B lol ) ruff ruff
Been with my kids father (40yrs old) for 24yrs (yep over half my life)
and yes every relationship has its up and downs but....we just make it a point to look forward and not backwards.
With him being a Truck Driver (staying away from home 2-3 nites a week)
Me being a Bartender (comming home 1-2 days a week at 4 or 5am)
Our #1 important VOW in our relationship is - TRUST
If we can Trust 1 another then we can Respect 1 another!!
Oh Yeah ..Did I mention we have NEVER MARRIED
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valeria
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I agree totally... but if you have communication and respect trust follows naturally.
Ok so now we have communication, respect and trust for a good relationship....and honesty so 4 basic things |
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kaska321
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Dear Alan , I was away for two days and I see you have so many great friends responding to your post, that I can tell there is nothing much I can tell you :-) You not alone , you have friends that care about you, and that counts more then anything ! I only wish you would meet another women in your live ,who could make you forget about past .
By the way, did I mention my current husband is my third ....... |
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ALW01
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Hi kaska321.
It is true, I have met and become friends with some wonderful people at Poker-Crush.
And no, you didn't mention this was your third marriage. LOL.
Though I'd bet all I owned on your third marriage being the most happiest. Would I have won? |
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Of course , you would won Alan !
How did you figure this out ...? ...lol
As they say " third time is a charm " , so , you have to start looking :-) |
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LOL ALW and kaska ... You are the best ...
kaska -
I've been married once and don't want to get married never ever again, so ... I'm doomed to be unhappy if "third time is a charm" ?? LOL
Ah well ... still I hope my track record of "Men Behaving Badly" is done and the next SERIOUS (LOL) one will also be THE ONE ... although "serious" people bore me LMAO
ALW -
While looking THE one and having fun in the process is AWESOME!
You might end up learning lots of NEW things in the process - like playing pool LOL
I highly recommed it ... when you are ready to "play the field" again.
It's really refreshing
Have a great weekend
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valeria
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Poppy I know where you are at but hon... NEVER SAY NEVER because you will have to eat your words LOL
Your too young to think you will never meet someone else that you will adore and love |
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May I just go back to an earlier post,
mojojds,
I love to hear about long & successful relationships.
The love you & your husband have for one other, must, by now, after 24 years, have grown into something extra ordinary.
The kind of love that person for person, only the very fortunate few will ever realise.
Congratulations, (maybe to early) on your soon to be Silver 'commonlaw' Wedding Anniversary.lol
Youv'e gotta love common law Wedding Anniversaries. lol.
I found this poem which I think is a fitting tribute to the many years you & your husband have been together.
Big Dipper
Climbing aboard together
The starting climb
The tension of the launching ramp
Holding your breath at the crest then...
Free-fall!
Hitting the first turn that pulls and tears
The fast straight
The buffeting corners
The ups and the downs
Holding hands
Holding tight
The nerve-breaking twists
The terrifying turns
Screaming and crying
Shouting and laughing
Round and round and upside-down
Leaving memories in your wake
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Thank you all for the advice which I appreciate,
but its been a very long time since I was last single and looking to meet someone.
I wouldn't know where to begin.
I don't know why, but it's a frightening thought, lol
Alan |
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23.06.2007, 16:32 |
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My dear and precious PC participating members,
That word "participating" has come to mean a lot to me.
I would like you each to look again at the name of this thread. Or maybe I am the one who is confused.....I thought it was the "PokerGuru's Request" thread. It COULD BE!
This is one thing I love about my members. Think of the relationships WE have with ONE ANOTHER as VERY good friends!
All my life, the most rewarding things have come to me through being a part of a SPECIAL group of people. And here I am again.....I HAVE MY VERY SPECIAL GROUP!
Yes, some of our posts may seem a bit strange for a poker forum, but at least we never forget that human beings are made up of a multitude of parts.....and in our case, poker is just one of them. THIS ASPECT (posts like these I have just been reading in this thread) of our poker forum is what makes us so very DIFFERENT and BETTER than any other such forum. We NEVER FORGET that we all are special human beings! We have many different things about ourselves and also many things the same.
We treat one another as HUMAN BEINGS, not just an impersonal BOARD (a message board). This is the kind of poker forum I wanted -- something new and different and offering more -- an I thank you for making it happen for me!!!
Once again, I find myself wanting to say "I am soooo proud of my PCers with guilded wings"!
This thread has been fascinating reading. You ALL are such gentle-hearted people -- the very best kind!
I appreciate every post every member makes. Making posts is what makes you a "participating" member -- the very best kind, again.
So thanks to my VERY BEST!
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