Guru's Request

Posts: 510 · Posted: 16.06.2007, 19:53

Alw, since you keep watching this story I can tell you some more details ....
I was living in NY and my husband in CA, he draw ( he wanted it to be original ) a car from CA to NY to see me first time , then he send me a airline ticket to see him, then we both start to drive a car , me from NY and him from CA, we met in Oklahoma ( middle of our route ) and then we went to Las Vegas and got married !
All this happened in period of one month !!!

Posts: 301 · Posted: 16.06.2007, 21:49

Hi kaska321,

Thank you for sharing your precious memories with us all.
What a wonderfully romantic, and unique first meeting you both shared.
It brought a big smile to my face as I read about it.
Please forgive me for asking, but I am dying to know.
If you both went to such extraordinary lengths for just your first meeting.
What was your wedding day like?

Alan

Posts: 510 · Posted: 17.06.2007, 01:14

That is very good question Alw.... we decide to get married one evening , it was 7 PM and we went to first store we could buy wedding rings, after that we took my son and head up to Las Vegas... we were there 1 AM , but then City Hall was open 24/7 ( not anymore :-( ), so we got our wedding license and we went to White Chapel ( this place doesn't` exist anymore too ) It was 3 AM already, priest was drunk and had terrible smell from his mouth ( I still remember his odor :-( )
We paid for whole service with pictures,but week later we got our money back,because none of the pictures come out :-) Fortunately my son, our only witness was making pictures too, so we had some memories on paper too :-) .Then we went to Bally's and slept a long time ...
After we come back from Las Vegas, my husband family ( its a huge one ) was so surprise and upset , that they didn't` want to talk to us for a long time ...lol
Right now , we have very good relation with all family and they did forgive us :-)

Posts: 510 · Posted: 17.06.2007, 01:33

This is us on the way to Las Vegas last year ...

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Posts: 301 · Posted: 17.06.2007, 13:59

Thank you kaska321,

A very interesting and amazing story, with perfect ' fairy tale ' result's.
I think you could say without doubt, that your husband succeeded in his effort to make your first meeting ' original.'
You both met and were married so swiftly. Did you ever feel that you were taking a risk in any way.
Or were you both 100% certain that you'd be where you are today.
As for his family, they were probably irate because they never thought of doing this themselve's.
By the way, what about the real reason everybody gets married....
The wedding presents of course.
Did you receive any at all?

PS Very nice picture.

Alan

Posts: 510 · Posted: 17.06.2007, 16:48

Alw, because of your questions , you force me to tell all my live story here...lol
But , you right... now when we think about it, it was very risky and bold move on both of us.Years ago,we didn't think about it, it seemed so natural and desire by both of us.We are still very happy , that we had the courage to make it work . Wedding gifts .. they come later, weeks after the wedding :-) My husband has the two older sisters ( very conservative type, both are architects ) and one older brother ( scientist ) . Some how, they start to like me from the beginning and we are getting alone very well, lucky me :-)
Good things are happening in live !

Posts: 151 · Posted: 17.06.2007, 17:43

Kaska ...

AMAZING story ... I am REALLY happy for you!!! Smile

Your photo was also wonderful ... and about the photo comment - I kinda like those "profile" photos - those leave something as "secret" ... Smile

Well, back to the topic LOL
It's always nice to read / hear TRUE love stories ... Smile

THANK YOU FOR SHARING KASKA!!! Smile

OMG - I have 4 days left of work and Fri I'll start 7 weeks long summer vacation. YAYYYYYYYY ...
AND ... my baby will FINALLY come home ... (in this case - Westie puppy Very Happy

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Posts: 151 · Posted: 17.06.2007, 18:46

P.S. Kaska ...

Your story kinda inspired me, so I changed my PC "profile" photo to my accounts --> MySpace, MSN, Skype and Y!Messenger ...

Let's see if I'll catch one of those umm ... 10 year younger ones ... In my case 26 year old LOL ...

*Just Kidding* Very Happy

(((HUGS))) and all the best Kaska - really amazing story!!! Smile

I am so happy for you Smile

Posts: 301 · Posted: 17.06.2007, 20:51

I am very sorry kaska321, please forgive me for being so rude.
It was such a nice tale, that I kind of got a little wrapped up in it all.
Anyway, these kind of stories are made for sharing.
I think you should take some of the blame kaska321, ( lol ) because you made the account of your meeting & marriage to your husband evermore interesting.
By the the way, what wedding presents did you get? And have you still got any them?
How did your husband propose to you? Did he get down on bended knee? Did you laugh? Did you cry? Did he cry?
Did you hear violins play?
ROFLMAOOOOOOOOOOO,
I'm only joking kaska321,
Thank you for sharing your wonderful tale with us.
I would tell you about my 18 year relationship, but it wouldn't be as exciting as yours.
In fact it's probably the exact opposite. lol

Alan

Posts: 510 · Posted: 18.06.2007, 16:20

Thank you guys for all your responds. I was happy to share some my story with you. I wish others could tell us more about them :-)
Poppy, I really wish you will get many,many new friends because of your gorgeous picture !
And Alan ... I don`t believe your story wouldn't be interesting, it must be something you did like then and maybe you just forgot about... you should keep good memories alive by sharing them, if not here, then with your better half :-)
Thanks again for all remarks, it was good feeling to remind myself how lucky we are.

Posts: 301 · Posted: 18.06.2007, 17:48

Thanks kaska321,

I think recent events in my 18 year relationship with my now ex-partner, might make interesting reading to some people.
But I did not want to spoil your wonderful story with my own depressing tale.

Alan

Posts: 510 · Posted: 18.06.2007, 18:43

Alan, you could look at this with different prospective...if you share with us , we can learn from your mistakes .... if you think there were any. 18 years together it is a very long time indeed ...
I think it could be good for you too , I bet many people would rather read sad stories then lucky once :-)

Posts: 151 · Posted: 18.06.2007, 18:56

Thank you, kaska Smile

And you are right ... happy or sad stories - doesn't matter - learning about other members is great.

I love when I know more than just their ID and maybe country where they are from ...

I've made LOTS of great friends here and the other forum and many of them have become real close to me.
It doesn't matter if there are thousands of miles (or kilometres LOL) in-between us. True friendship can overcome the distance ...

So ... thanks to Utah x 2, Virginia, California, Australia, Finland, UK ...
Just to mention few ...

You're PRECIOUS!!! (((HUGS)))

Marjo

Posts: 301 · Posted: 19.06.2007, 03:50

My daughter had been asking for a tattoo for ages.
I finally agreed after she found a mobile tattooist who would tattoo my daughter for Â£40 to Â£50 less than the shop's prices.
Unfortunately it cost me much more than money.My partner began an affair with him and asked me to leave. I refused.
In the heat of an argument I said,
"I was going to find this man and rip his head off"
I didn't mean it literally,apart from the odd scuffle,I've never had a real fight all my adult life and I doubt I ever will.
She had me arrested for threats to kill. I taken from the house and placed into police custody for 2 days, which gave her enough time to change the locks.
I went back a few times begging her to reconsider but she was so hostile and cruel towards me that I had to walk away. I haven't seen her or my 3 year old son for almost 3 months.
I still can't comprehend what happened,why it happened, and how quickly it was all over.
I also have a criminal record.
Her affair with the tattooist ended 2 weeks after I left.

Posts: 1825 · Posted: 19.06.2007, 05:45

Well ALW this may sound cruel but not meant that way. If she didn't have an affair with that tattoo guy it would have well been someone else. Apparantly she wasn't committed to you anymore and your relationship was already in trouble. People who are committed to a relationship and are happy don't have affairs.

I have found communicating is the best way to keep a marriage or any relationship on good firm ground. If you don't have communication and tell each other what you feel then you don't have much. You can't expect the other person to "know what your feeling" if you don't express it. I am not talking about you only.. apparantly she didn't feel the need to communicate her change of feelings before she had an affair.

I am sorry for your loss of your partner and especially your break with your 3 year old son. I hope you and she can communicate in the near future to keep up your relationship with your son without animosity but that is difficult without communication.

I have had 2 marriages so I know where your coming from. It was easier for me because I did the kicking out. But both of them deserved it. I never regretted either decision because it was because of what they did and how they acted. Also lack of communication.

I think it is harder for someone who is the one kicked out especially if they think everything is still great. It is a shock.

It will get better in time. Really. Life goes on and hopefully you will find the right person who is the other half of you.

My brother married this girl over 20 some years ago which the family really didn't care for that much. Nobody thought it would last. But you know what? They are still married happily. The secret to their marriage is that every day after work they come home and sit down with coffee and talk about their day and things going on in their life. Even the kids knew that that one hour was mom and dads time. They shut out everyone dring that hour. No phone calls no interruptions. They talk every day still. No secrets, no problems that they both don't know about. They work it out together. That's a marriage.

I feel for you but it will get better. I hope I didn't sound preachy Smile

HUGS